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Hi, I’m Dr. Ruth, and I’m a survivor of a 10-year abusive marriage.

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But he never hit me...

This course is designed to help you recognize and name the invisible types of abuse you might never have been taught to see... but are no less real and harmful.

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Get access to a full 20+ page workbook to map your own unique "shape" of abuse. Upload your completed workbook and you’ll receive: A personalized, expanded analysis, written summary a video message from Dr. Ruth discussing your results.

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Personalized Shape of Abuse Analysis and One-on-one call with Dr. Ruth

Get access to a full 20+ page workbook to map your own unique "shape" of abuse. Upload your completed workbook and you’ll receive: a personalized, expanded analysis, written summary, a video message with your results, and a link to schedule a 1:1 call with Dr. Ruth.

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"So You're Out...What's Next?"

THANK YOU for having the bravery to share every raw detail of your story. A lot of victims are told, ‘Why didn’t you just leave?’ but no one gets it.

The way abusers isolate you and break down your worth… Dr. Ruth is giving a voice to a lot of people who don’t think they deserve one.

Jada

After watching Dr. Ruth's videos, I finally understand what narcissistic abuse is! You shine a light on the subtle abuse you get so used to.

Your work helps me see what I've normalized.

Leticia

Dr. Ruth's videos have been like a hug to my soul! Getting out was a gift, but hearing your stories connects me to moments I’ve tried to forget.

I love that you talk about the small moments, because those matter so much.

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From September 2022 until I left in April 2023, I used this document to make notes, collect resources, and document what I learned about escaping abuse.

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